My Articles for The False Rape Society -- Part Two

Back in 2010 or so, I answered a call for writers issued by Pierce Harlan, owner of a blog title The False Rape Society. The blog existed to showcase the prevalence and type of false accusations of rape, primarily as they appeared in news reports, and related subjects.  He was looking for someone to write about rape culture. I didn't know anything about it, and I thought learning about it might make for some good articles for the FRS blog, so I sent him an e-mail.

He took me up on it. If memory serves, I was to write an article every other week, to appear on Fridays, although that was changed to weekly at some point. I already knew I did not do well writing under deadlines, and I lasted a little over a year. Part of the way through my time with the FRS, my subject matter was enlarged from Rape Culture 101 or Gender 101. I wrote about forty articles.

The archives of The False Rape Society are still online, although the comments have been removed. In 2013, the blog was moved ant the named changed to The Community of the Wrongly Accused. Visit, follow the links below:

The False Rape Society        ~        The Community of the Wrongly Accused

I will gradually post my articles from The False Rape Society here, and will create a hyperlinked index as time allows. 


No Gender Differences?  Really?

Have you ever encountered the feminist claim that gender is a social construct and doesn't exist naturally?  The differences between individuals is greater than the differences between male and female, the claim goes. Here's an example of this propaganda put out by the Department of Education:

http://www.campbell-kibler.com/Stereo.pdf

Except for minor physical characteristics, feminists say -- for example, women can give birth and men can pee their names in snow -- there are really no differences.  They'll tell you this  with a straight face, evidently expecting you to believe they really believe it. 

They don't.  Of course they don't.  There could be no such thing as "rape culture" by anyone who believes gender difference does not exist.

Because who rapes, according to feminists?  Men.  Why do they rape?  Because they are men. Women do not rape, because they are not men.

Sorry. Anybody who'd believe that believes in very basic gender differences.

I believe the differences between male and female exist, but not the way feminists do.  For them, the point of not recognizing gender differences is to elevate women; and the point of recognizing them is to trash men. 

Why?  Aside from simply expressing the hatred of men that underlies all feminist thought, the point is to give women an advantage in the classroom, in the office, in the home. But because men and women are different, the advantage has to be an unfair one. 

If there are no differences between men and women, why the VAWA?  Why reconstruct education in this country to be friendly to how girls learn, and hostile to how boys learn?  If male and female are the same, what's the objection to single-sex classrooms?  If there are no differences in the genders, wouldn't a classroom full of boys be exactly the same as a classroom full of girls and boys?

The blatant double standard of feminism is one of my strongest objections to it.  It is illustrated many ways, but the cognitive dissonance of claiming no gender differences exist while proclaiming that we live in a "rape culture" is is one of the most conspicuous.


I Am Not Afraid

When I step out of my house, get behind the wheel of my little S-10 pickup and drive a mile or so to Winn-Dixie, or to the next county to visit my kinfolk, or anywhere, for that matter, the first thing that pops into my mind is not, "Gee, I hope I don't get raped while I'm out."  That's particularly true if it's daytime.

When it's night, I'm apt to be a bit more cautious, aware of the possibilities of mischief abroad. Scripture says wicked people (that would be women as well as men) love the darkness of night because it hides their evildoing. So I don't take chances. No giving rides to people I don't know. No stopping to help someone with a flat tire.  I'll call for roadside assistance, but I won't stop myself. I can't change a tire, anyway, so I'd be no help.

My caution, though, can't be chalked up to "rape culture."  I know that if I'm waylaid in the dark, it's more likely that I'll be robbed by somebody needing  money for drugs than by a crazed rapist.

But isn't that what I'm supposed to be afraid of?  Isn't that what "Take Back the Night" and claims of "rape culture" are all about?  Women victimized by legions of rapists skulking in the nightime shadows?

On the "History" page of the website for Take Back the Night Foundation, a paragraph describes how a woman walking down a dark, empty street is terrified by the shadows until she reaches her destination. It's a tragedy that women feel anxious when they walk alone at night.

In that case, it makes sense to me to not walk alone at night unless you must. Drive, baby. Call a cab. Get someone you trust to walk with you.  Or stay in until it's daytime. 

And remember; men are victims of nighttime mischief, as well.  Women don't have a corner on victimhood. But where are all the organizations, rallies and websites, not to mention legislation, aimed at protecting men who are victims of nighttime crime?  Why do only women deserve this attention?

And is it just me, or does everyone who visits the Take Back the Night website notice the big blue "donate now" button at the top of every page?

Frankly, judging by personal observation, my town is just full of women who are also not afraid.  They drive alone, shop alone, ferry kids around, they work, play, worship without living in fear of rape.  It would seem that the campaign to make women fearful -- and that's what all this "rape culture" baloney is about -- isn't working too well. 

The attempt to instill fear of rape in women is really an attempt to instill in them the fear of men.  And that must be disappointing for the radical feminists trying drive a wedge between the sexes and fundamentally alter the way human beings relate.  The majority of women, even those who've come under feminist influence without consciously embracing it, don't see "rape" and "men" as synonyms.

What they--what we--see is that it is men who protect us, who partner with us to share our homes, our fortunes, our lives, our families. They are not our victimizers.  They are our fathers, our sons, our husbands, our brothers, and it will be a cold day in hell before feminism will succeed in making me fear the wonderful men in my life who love me and see to my wellbeing.

It is largely because of them--and the legions of men whose live decently and virtuously, who protect and provide, who do the right thing because they are men of honor and conscience--that I am not afraid.



Man-hating and the Popular Culture

On the writers groups and blogs I regularly read, from time to time discussions ensue about the popularity of vampires as romance heroes.  There seems to be an increase in these discussions now, probably because of the release of Eclipse, the latest film in the series based on the vampire novels of Stephanie Meyer.

For anyone who's been off-planet the last few years, Meyer's "Twilight" series chronicles the love story of Bella Swan, a teenage girl, and her relationship with Edward Cullen, a vampire, in the gloomy, great northwest.

I generally don't take part in such discussions because I'm pretty sure women who love to write and read about vampire heroes would not care for my explanation of their popularity -- misandry, brought to you by feminism.

I've noted in previous essays that women who may not consciously embrace feminist thought can nevertheless influenced by it, considering how pervasive it is in our culture.  I've also put forth the opinion that feminism seeks to alter the most fundamental of human relationships. 

Women are drawn to men, especially those they perceive as strong and capable.  Feminism has done its best to discourage that attraction.  The claims of thousands of years of evil patriarchy, which is nothing more than men oppressing and exploiting women...the complaints about men denying women education, careers, the vote...the bellyaching about the "imprisoning" of women in the "comfortable concentration camps" of brick ranch houses in the 'burbs...the charges that men long to keep women barefoot, pregnant and in the kitchen...the whining about the glass ceiling and paying her $.79 for every dollar he makes...the allegations of sexual harassment on the job...the pervasive showcasing of domestic violence (all committed by men, of course)...the accusation that every man is a potential rapist...the constant carping about rape culture....iIt's all designed to sow discord.  To plant in women the fear and hatred of men and to bring about a "new" humanity, where the old roles no longer apply--indeed, no longer exist.

It's difficult to imagine this goal will ever be achieved. On the most fundamental level, it goes against what we are.   Women and men are made for each other. They belong to each other, and they belong together. 

However, at the very least, feminism's drive toward this unachievable goal has made it unpopular, even offensive, for a woman to admire and love a man, particularly a strong one.  The problem is that women are drawn to strong men, and when that attraction is discouraged, it will find expression another way, up to and including admiration for -- or, in the case of the Twilight saga, obsession with -- entities that do not even exist.

Is it really coincidental, then, that the ascendency of sexy vampires in novels and movies coincides with the aftereffects of second-wave feminism with its element of egregious man-hating? 

In 1979, Stephen King's Salem's Lot was made into a TV miniseries, and the vampires looked like this: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:TheMasterKurtBarlow1979.jpg

In 1994, Anne Rice's Interview With the Vampire was made into a theatrical movie, and the vampires looked like this
http://www.radio21.ro/files/uploads/editor/image/Vampiri/tom%20cruise.jpg

And in 2008, Stephanie Meyer's Twilight was made into a movie, and the vampires looked like this:
http://cristinagrosu.files.wordpress.com/2009/06/edward-cullen-twilight-series-3897195-1280-102421.jpg

Interesting that they grow to look more and more like the loathsome men feminists would have us fear and hate but, paradoxically, emulate.

I haven't read Meyer or Rice's books, or seen the movies based on them, nor have I read the proliforation of vampire paperbacks flooding the popular culture.  I'm not a feminist; I haven't bought into all the man-hating, so I don't need a substitute for human males as an object for admiration, even in light, escapist reading. 

My admiration is reserved for the flesh-and-blood sons of Adam--the good, decent men who love their wives and children, who provide for their families, who make society work, and who strive to make the world a better place for all. These are my heroes.

I'm sure there are feminists who don't undestand that; they can be sure I don't lose sleep over it.


Writing Advocacy Fiction
 

When I asked Pierce if I might discuss my false-accusation novel in one of my essays, I didn't expect his offer to link to the novel's page on Amazon.com, though I certainly appreciate it, just as I appreciate the okay to blog about something very important to me -- my belief that fiction needs to be used much more than it is to positively portray men and to counter feminist propaganda.

No doubt about it, nonfiction is crucial in the communication of ideas. This blog is but one example. But fiction (and drama) are potent persuaders, too. Feminists and progressives know that and they've used them for decades (along with taking over education, legislation and the courts) to promote their worldview and alter society.

There have been some false-accusation novels in the past with positive portrayals of men. To Kill a Mockingbird comes readily to mind, since this year marks the 50th anniversary of its publication. But Disclosure, a novel by the late Michael Crichton about a false sexual harassment case, featured a less admirable protagonist who seemed highly inconvenienced by the charge but not really emotionally affected.

You see it over and over again, in news reports and other accounts; false accusations of a sexual nature are emotionally devastating to the accused man and those close to him. This is in addition to the possible loss of job, income and standing in the community--and sometimes the loss of several decades of life in a penitentiary, if the accusation is rape.

I found one of the best examples of this effect in a comment made by Reade Seligmann, one of the Duke Lacrosse defendants. I no longer have the quote, and can't find it online, but he said, in effect, that when he saw himself on national TV and heard news reports about what he was accused of, "I can't tell you what that does to me inside."

That was a major inspiration for my writing Southern Man; to show the emotional effects of false accusation on an innocent man--what it does to him inside. To show how it carried over to his family and loved ones. To show what the thoughtless acceptance of "Women never lie" and similar feminist declarations can lead to.

It may be a little audacious to think the initial offering of an unknown novelist will make any headway against the institutionalized hostility toward males in our culture, but you gotta start somewhere.

Although I suspected no traditional publisher would cross feminism and take a chance on my manuscript, I did shop it around for a while. My suspicions were confirmed by a rejection letter from the late Kate Duffy at Kensington, who wrote, among other things, "While the premise is interesting, I don't think this adds anything new to the idea of sexual harassment."

Well, of course it adds something new to the idea of sexual harassment -- the effects of a false accusation on an innocent man. At any rate, that letter convinced me to bring the novel to print myself. It is an advocacy novel, written to inform through entertaining. It is intentionally emotional; perhaps even emotionally manipulative. I wrote it for traditional women who may not realize the extent to which feminism and progressivism has influenced their world--though I do hope men can read it without gagging.

I would love to see more advocacy fiction on behalf of men and more counter-feminist novels. I encourage aspiring novelists who doubt their chances with establishment publishers to consider self-publishing. Thanks to the digital age, it has never been easier or more affordable. A recap of my experience bringing Southern Man to print can be found here:

http://conniechastain.com/SelfPub.html

Thank you again, Pierce.


Journey to the Dark Side 

I mentioned in my first Rape Culture 101 essay that tracking down the origins of rape culture would comprise research for future essays. 

I must confess, though, that I'm far less interested in researching the origins of rape culture claims and more interested examining the primary motivation behind them, the same one that fuels feminism: hatred of men.

Toward this end, I went through the web in search of feminist sites and blogs to help with my research.  To my delight, I found much of my work already done for me.

Take Part, Inspiration to Action, http://www.takepart.com/ a website that encourages activism on left of center issues, has a list of "Top Ten Feminist Blogs," http://www.takepart.com/news/2008/03/13/top-ten-feminist-blogs/some of which the readers of The False Rape Sociey are no doubt familiar with.

The list was compiled two years ago by Bostonian Giulia Rozzi, who does not identify the criteria she used to choose these particular blogs, which is understandable when  you think about it. Whim seems as acceptable a rationale for much feminist thought as objective standards do.

In any case, whatever Rozzi's criteria, the Top Ten Femnist Blogs are:

  1. Feministing http://www.feministing.com/
  2. Feministe http://www.feministe.us/
  3. Our Bodies Our Blog  http://www.ourbodiesourblog.org/
  4. Jezebel  http://www.jezebel.com/
  5. Broadsheet (part of Salon.com)   http://www.salon.com/mwt/broadsheet/
  6. Finally Feminism 101 http://finallyfeminism101.wordpress.com/
  7. Women in Media & News Blog  http://www.wimnonline.org/WIMNsVoicesBlog/
  8. Holla Back NYC  http://www.hollabacknyc.blogspot.com/
  9. MediaGirl  http://www.mediagirl.org/
10. Bitch Magazine  http://bitchmagazine.org/blogs

I haven't visited all of these blogs. In fact, I've hardly visited any of them to date. I have a really low threshold for feminist BS and can only take small, measured exposures to it at any given time.  But I will visit them, looking for what they say about rape culture, and what they may say, or otherwise reveal, about the man-hatred that underlies such claims.

Rozzi follows up her list with an acknowledgement that there are many more "fabulous female-focused blogs out there." 

Imagine my surprise, then, when I discovered, quite by accident, that one of the most viscerally male-hating blogs I have ever encountered is run by a ... man.  (So the blogger claims.)  I'm speaking of "A Radical Profeminist" http://radicalprofeminist.blogspot.com/ 
The blog's banner sez, "This blog exists to challenge white heterosexual male supremacy as an instutionalized ideology and a systematized set of practices which are mysogynistic, heterosexist, racist, genocidal, and ecocidal."

Oh, goody.  Anybody who has something to say about so many subjects will surely have comments on claims of rape culture and false rape accusations. 

The problem, I discovered after a few mintues of looking around over there, its that the blogger, who claims his name is Julian Real, appears to be completely demented. This guy concocts his own terminology that requires a fabricated glossary; he remains secure in his "radical profeminist" hatred of men (if they're white and hetro) by a commenting policy that allows no challenging opinions. 

The blog is stuffed like a turkey on Thankgsiving. Look down the right sidebar at all the links, labels and previous posts.  Among them,  you'll find Real's bio, which says he is disabled, and now we know why he has so much time to create and then wallow in such hatred. Men (and women) who have to go to work and earn the funds to put the 'taters on the table don't have time for such foolishness.

However, when I stumbled across the site, I stayed long enough to look for posts on rape culture. A search of the site using that terminology reveals eight pages of articles, the first one a movie review of The Karate Kid remake written by Malik Diamond, "hip-hop medicine man from the fifth dimension."  (I'm not making  this  up.) 
http://radicalprofeminist.blogspot.com/2010/07/they-got-us-by-dreams-dominant-culture.html

I have to say, after visiting Julian Real's little corner of cyber-insanity, it'll be a bit of a relief to get back to ordinary man-hating from, say, Michael Kimmel at Feministing.  At least Mr. Kimmel writes like he went to high school. 
http://feministing.com/2010/07/16/michael-kimmel-on-male-entitlement-anger-and-invisible-privilege/

About the best thing I can say about Real's blog is that visiting it doesn't cause permanent brain damage.


The Virus of Radical Feminism

Okay, I know--and will say right up front--that it's a stretch to compare feminism to a virus, particularly the one I have in mind, although there are some parallels. But I'm not the first or only one to make such a comparison, as a Google search confirms.

David Horowitz, writer and publisher, a leftist turned rightwinger, has compared the entire cultural and political left, including one if its subsets, radical feminism, to a virus. If Horowitz has a specific virus in mind, he doesn't name it. He does descibe its effects: "...a virus that attacks [the left's] brain cells and makes it incapable of ingesting real world facts and consequently of arriving at reasonable judgments."

I do have a specific virus in mind for my comparison--the rabies virus--because I've recently had reason to do a lot of Internet reading about it.

Several days ago a semi-stray cat bit me. (Story here: http://www.conniechastain.blogspot.com/) I have no access to his vaccination record, don't even know if he has one. So I read about rabies on the Center for Disease Control's website, and my county health department's website. While determining how I needed to respond to the bite (and following those instructions, and the advice of my doctor), I read other things about rabies.

Viruses can do nothing on their own--can't eat, can't grow, can't reproduce. They need a host for that. Most viruses are benevolent, as far as mankind is concerned. Indeed, life could not exist without them. But a very few have extremely malignant effects on their hosts. One of them is the rabies virus. Though other viruses far kill more people around the world, rabies carries its own special kind of horror.

This virus is so devastating because it attacks the central nervous system--spine and brain--the master controller of every physical thing we do, the determiner of our thought, reason, emotion, self-concept. The destruction of brain cells by the virus visits upon the victim some of the most horrifying pathologies known to man. Moreover, while rabies can easily be prevented, it cannot be cured. Once symptoms manifest, death--a horrible one, if palliative care is not available--is inevitable.

The rabies virus enters the body through a bite wound. For days, weeks, or months, it makes its way thoughtout the nervous system, remaining symptomless, until it reaches the brain. Then, symptoms appear. (Symptoms of rabies. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rabies#Signs_and_symptoms)

If we consider radical feminism to be a virus that infects a culture or society, are we starting to see a glimmer of the parallels here? I think so, although every analogy breaks down at some point.

Consider the type and quantity of destructive change that has come to society through the work of relatively few feminist activists. The "bite" could be likened to creating in women an overwhelmining dissatisfaction with being wives and mothers (Friedan's The Feminine Mystique), the increase of coeds in colleges and universities and the prevalence of women's studies on campuses.

Through feminist-influenced graduates, the indoctrination then branches out from university campuses into government, the courts, corporations and business, law, medicine, the news and entertainment media, the popular culture, even the military and religion. In short, every aspect of culture. It invades and reshapes the very things that determines, on a societal level, who and what we are. Unlike the rabies virus, which is basically a thing with no will or intent, the radfem virus attacks society knowingly and with intent.

Because so much of what feminism seeks to change is essential to human existence, there's bound to be monumental and devastating affects on the culture, such as:

1- rejection of the sex roles of men and women which are fundamental to individuals and society;

2- the undermining of the stability of the family, the foundation on which all society rests;

3- the shunting aside of men and boys (on whom societal survival depends) in favor to making girls "feel better";

4- the demonization (or dumb-ination) of men in the popular culture;

5- the invention of "rape culture" and perpetration of false rape claims against men;

6- the astronomical dropout rates, drug use and criminal activity among fatherless children....

I could go on, but readers of this blog no doubt are well acquainted with symptoms of the radfem virus on our culture.

The question now arises--can our culture's immune system fight off the virulent attack of feminism? Or do these societal symptoms mean we've reached the point of no return?


Fight for the Title

No, I'm not talking the title of World Heavyweight Champion for boxing, although no doubt about it, that title has to be fought for.

I'm talking about the current squabble over which women will claim the title "feminist" -- conservatives or liberals.

A couple of months ago, feminist writer Jessica Valenti blasted Sarah Palin for "adopting the feminist label." Apparently, leftist feminists believe conservative women cannot, or should not, share the title. Nevertheless, most of the female candidates who won primary races in June identified as conservative Republicans -- and feminists.

You have to be careful with labels. Many political writers have questioned Sarah Palin's conservatism, and I'm not in total disagreement with their doubts. But when it comes to the feminist label, it is most interesting to see what self-identified feminists say it means.

Numerous definitions, explanations, discussions of what a feminist is can be found on the internet; none of them sticks with me more than more than a highly misandric piece written in 2008 by Miami Herald columnist Leonard Pitts titled "I Am a Feminist." I've often wondered if Pitts realized how greatly he was demonizing his fellow males in this column.

You can read it here: http://www.post-gazette.com/pg/08039/855735-35.stm

The column concludes, "We have lost collective memory of how things were before the F-word. Of the casual beatings. Of the casual rape. Of words like 'old maid' and 'spinster.' Of abortion by coat hanger. Of going to school to find a man. Of getting an allowance and needing a husband's permission. Of taking all your spirit, all your dreams, all your ambition, aspiration, creativity and pounding them down until they fit a space no larger than a casserole dish."

Shortly after this piece was published, I recapped it in a chatroom as, "Men = casual beaters, casual rapists, heartless insulters, irresponsible impregnators, rigid controllers and haters of women..."

When some of the chatroom members hotly took exception to my recap, I explained further that it was logically implied in what Pitts wrote.

"Of the casual beatings." Requires casual beaters -- does it not? -- who would be men, unless you imagine Pitts is talking about women casually beating other women?

"Of the casual rape." Requires casual rapists, who would be men --unless you imagine Pitts is talking about women casually raping other women.

"Of words like 'old maid' and 'spinster.'" Heartless insults that require heartless insulters, and since we know the feminist tenet that women are not heartless, we can infer that Pitts is talking about men.

"Of abortion by coat hanger." Abortions are performed on pregnant women, and women cannot impregnate other women, so the impregnators are men, and since the woman is having an abortion to get rid of the child, that means she was impregnated by a man too irresponsible to practice birth control, or to take responsibility for the baby.

"Of going to school to find a man. Of getting an allowance and needing a husband's permission." "Allowance" and "permission" imply control, and men are doing the controlling.

The violence and abuse, the heartlessness and insults, the reproductive irresponsibility, and the rigid control all adds up to men's hatred of women. That is what Pitts is saying about men in this article and he implies these things, these effects of men, would be running rampant and roughshod over women--but for feminism.

In a recent column for RealClearPolitics, Cathy Young opined that conservative feminists speak to "an audience that seeks individualistic and market-oriented solutions, rather than big-government-driven ones, and focuses on women’s empowerment rather than oppression.... The women who embrace it are likely to transform both feminism and conservatism. The feminist movement ignores them at its peril."

I have my doubts. Feminism, as Pitts so ably demonstrated, is man-hating at its core. Any woman--or man--who does not accept and promote that concept does not deserve the title. In my humble opinion.


 It's a Good Time to Take a Stand

If you pay much attention to politics and culture, you know things ain't real pretty right now -- at least, not in the USA.

The country is probably as divided as it has ever been without resorting to arms. The economy is in shambles; government at all levels is broke. The recession has hit men the hardest, so the federal government tries to fix it by spending nonexistent money creating jobs for ... women. The president disses the Boy Scouts' 100th Anniversary in order to get in front of TV cameras with the bit-- women of "The View." Sheesh.

Society is polarized. That makes it a good time to seize the energy that flows from conflict and take a stand. What we have now is a great opportunity for real women to stand up to radical feminists -- to stand up for themselves and their men in the face of baseless feminist criticism, haranguing and bellyaching.

The Internet is a great virtual arena for such a debate. An effort might be as simple as leaving a comment challenging a hostile article or praising a positive one. From there, the motivated debater can move into chat rooms and discussion groups. Really motivated defenders can start their own blogs. Anybody who's been online a while knows all this, but it bears repeating, as hard times weigh folks down and try to leach our spirits from us.

Being the somewhat contentious and opinionated person that I am (hey, I can't help it, it's my Scots-Irish mountaineer heritage) I've been e-squabbling and i-kvetching since I got online with my first WebTV back in 1999, about a great variety of subjects, including feminism. I've learned a few lessons that others have perhaps learned, and perhaps not.

First, you're not going to change the mind of a dedicated feminist, about rape culture or patriarchy or glass ceilings or anything else, no matter how logical and incisive your argument, so don't try. Realize that the whole point of the exercise is to present your argument to non-participants, to the lurkers and readers, those who may not yet realize that they, indeed, do have a dog in this fight.

Second, you're not going to do your cause any good by participating in the online equivalent of elementary school cafeteria food-fights. Nobody's convinced by name-calling and profanity, so don't participate, and if you have the authority, follow the example of FRS's great moderators, Pierce and Steve, and shut down counter-productive discussions.

Third, as important as it is to stand up to radical feminist insanity, it is far more important to stand up for the wonderful men in our society, in our families, in our lives. They're unlikely to stand up for themselves, these men -- ordinary men (who are anything but ordinary), the unsung heroes, the men who hold everything together, who make the world work and societies successful, the nameless men who invent, who maintain, who accomplish because it's what they do, not because they seek recognition or praise. But whether they seek it or not, they appreciate it.

But there's more to do than just recognize their essential contributions to successful human existence; there is also the job of defending men, particularly western men, from feminism's egregious lies. You don't read of husbands in the USA cutting off their wives' noses and ears -- but you do hear of wives cutting off their husband's penises--and being applauded for it. And yet, in a society where women are pampered and uplifted, feminists still complain about made up rape culture and the dearth of women in executive suites.

So many times when I've read terse accounts of false rape accusations on this blog, I've wondered if anyone stood up for the falsely accused, if the women in his life stood with him and let him know that he was not abandoned by those who care about him.

Arguing, on the Internet or anywhere else, isn't for everyone. But in this climate of constant complaint about men and boys, even non-confrontational types can, and should, stand for and with their husbands, fathers, sons and brothers against all of feminism's false allegations.


Earnest Feminism Revisited

Back in June, Dr. Snark posted a masterful essay titled, How Long Can They Pin It On 'Fringe Radicals'? If you missed it, follow this link. If you read it before, it's worth reading again.

http://falserapesociety.blogspot.com/2010/06/how-long-can-they-pin-it-on-fringe.html

It begins with the claim of earnest feminists, that they "don't hate men at all, and that those so-called feminists who do hate men are not really feminists at all, and that we've just got it all wrong."

I've butted heads with earnest feminists making these claims for years, in discussion groups and chat rooms online, and a few times in person. I note that in-person, face-to-face headbutting is usually much more civil, even polite, than what happens online; although feminist minds seem to be equally closed and concrete-hard, regardless of where the discussion transpires.

Earny-fems not only deny that man-hating feminists are real feminists; they deny the many ways feminist man-hating manifests in our culture. 

A couple of years ago, I had a some lively discussions about a Newsweek article by feminist Carol Gilligan claiming that studying girls can teach us about boys. 

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/10965127/site/newsweek/

In making her case that boys can "read the human world astutely" she claims that boys, to avoid "compromising masculinity," often repudiate their "human qualities" (i.e., emotional openness, sensitivity and connectedness). She illustrates this with an anecdote about little Sam.

Four-year-old Sam asked his mother one day, "Mommy, why are you sad?" Wanting to shield him from her sadness, she replied, "I'm not sad." Sam said, "Mommy, I know you. I was inside you." 

Well, I told the folks in my discussion group that this was a bunch of hooey. Utter shuck. Made. Up.

A four-year-old -- girl or boy -- would not make that kind of abstract connection, I explained. Little Sam would know his mommy was sad because she had a sad expression on her face, or because she was crying. Most kids that young would associate "being inside" someone with being devoured, a terrifying concept which does not fit with emotional openness, sensitivity and connectedness.

The outcry produced in the group was a marvelous illustration of the traversing of feminist tangents. Did I think four-year-olds don't know where babies come from? (Some of them do, but that wasn't the point.) It's because I've never had kids that I don't know what four-year-olds think. (If you have to personally experience something in order to discuss it, a great many people in that group would have to forego commenting on their favorite subjects.)

The one I liked best, though, from one of the most earnest, self-proclaimed feminists in the group, was that nobody ever heard of Carol Gilligan, so how much influence could she have?

Well, Carol Gilligan, for those who don't know, almost single-handedly started the process of making elementary and secondary education in the USA hostile to the way boys learn. You can read about it here:

http://www.ifeminists.net/introduction/editorials/2006/0208roberts.html

This, of course, is another point of denial for earnest feminists. The schools aren't hostile to the way boys learn. They've just stopped being hostile to the ways girls learn, and the girls are catching up -- nay, surpassing -- boys. 

And this defense of feminism frequently comes from women who say they have sons. Gilligan starts her article noting that she has three of them. 

Regardless of how earnest feminists choose to see it, feminism is shot through with manhating. If education truly was hostile to the way little girls learn once, the remedy would have been to make it accomodating of them without harming boys. The fact that the road chosen included hostility not only to the way boys learn, but to boys themselves, has now resulted in an educational boy-crisis that is difficult for even feminists to deny.

And how many folks believe that Title Nining college sports would have been so popular among certain cirles if it had only made sports equally available to female students? No, it is the eradication of so many male sports that rouse feminists to a fist-pumping "Yes!"

I could go on, but that should illustrate it well enough. What underlies so much of the feminist push to change culture in the guise of helping women is really a hostilility to men, the same hostility that equates a man accused of rape with "perpetrator" and the accuser with "victim," before it has even been determined that rape occurred.

Earnest feminists can deny it all they wish but misandry is an integral and visible component of feminism. 
 

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